It’s taken me years to get this far – a small, scruffy little blog. Another blog in the midst of all the millions of other blogs. Some days I feel excited and hopeful that I’ll find my audience, pick up a few readers and share some useful stuff. After all, everyone has got to start somewhere.
Think like a kid. Toddlers don’t come from a place of can’t, they dont start with all the reasons why a thing can’t be done. They have no idea what is & isn’t beyond their capability. Little ones find out by exploration & experimentation.
Kids reach out and touch, taste, poke & prod – they move and gravitate towards their goal.
When they’re really little & observing the world they just look openly, without judgement & without hiding. The older we get, the harder it is to look into a person’s eyes without the need to shield yourself or them from your judgement – or from revealing too much.
But the little ones, they just look with no hiding, innocence & beauty – a compelling combination. Life for them is a series of things to master & know and they’re not cowed by the consequence of judgement on their ego.
In order to continue to reach, stretch & grow we’d do well to adopt a more childlike approach to trying new stuff. Give ourselves the permission to have a go without fear of fucking up. We have to taste, touch & sniff it. Shove it in yer gob or whack it with a stick – doesn’t matter – while it’s true that now we understand the risks more we may feel more trepidation but it’s no less scary for the person who doesn’t do it than it is for the brave soul who takes a deep breath & plunges in!
Jumping off a cliff attached to a bungee is no less risky for you than it is for the other guy – but lets say you don’t do it and the other chap does? No really let’s say it because I sure as shoes am not going to do it…
Result: you don’t know any more about what you’re capable of – unless you count being bum scrunchingly scared. In New Zealand – I learnt I was too scared to take that particular risk while I watched other people conquer for my money totally understandable fears, fling them selves out into the void & learn stuff…
They can overcome fear
Take a risk
That it feels amazing – squeeeee!
That they can do anything they decide to
That fear isn’t a barrier to achievement
Perceived danger isn’t always actual danger & even though our bodies behave the same (which is jolly useful when you are attempting to wrangle your lizard brain.)
The view from the platform is fkking awesome man!
How amazing the world is
Wow! So that’s pretty clear then…
If you risk nothing you gain little or nothing. Let’s not hold the front page here – but instead of trotting out the age worn phrase – stop a moment, have a cup of good green tea and consider now really engaging with that hackneyed old notion might move you out of a fear torpor…
All of life involves calculated risk, most of the time we calculate the odds automatically without consciously processing the calculation. Most likely we’ve already done that calculation a quazillion times before or we’ve used someone else’s working out without thinking. (Hello mamma, hello papa).
So we’ve done it so many times we think we’re clear of the risk factor because we have proven to ourselves that we can repeatedly take that action and navigate the risks safely. Or we’ve proved that by avoiding it – we have kept ourselves safe.
Going out of the door involves risk, for some people their response to that risk is so severe, they don’t get past the door* so we know it’s relative.
*This little post doesn’t cover that level of fear – its an attempt to strip down risk.
Why do I go out of the door if I know there are potential dangers. In fact incalculable amounts of danger. From being run over by a car to forgetting to lock my front door. There are a myriad of potential bloopers the minute I step over the threshold! But I’m not leaving the house every day in a crash helmet & Kevlar – and it isnt because I can’t find the right accessories.
So why do it if it’s safer in doors?
Apart from the very real need to go to the shops for cheese – out there lies glorious possibility.
… and doesn’t all risk bring opportunity and creative growth? I should think that’s fairly obvious –
because managed risk is part of growing up, moving on and making shit happen.
So here’s my handy dandy guide to taking risks.
1) Think of a scary thing…
2) Do it once.
3) Do it again and once more for the hell of it!
4) Weigh up the gains against the costs – and pronounce ‘the thing’ worth it or not worth it.
5) Do it again or don’t do it again
You are now a Risk Ninja – Green Belt. Your next step is to think of an even scarier thing and get on with that.
Good Luck – let me know how you get on x