I am languishing. Such a lovely, self loving thing to do – languish. I insist you try it at your very first opportunity. You don’t need much to languish. A comfy spot, warm and soft – and nothing to do and no-one to please but yourself for at least an hour. Now you must do absolutely nothing that you don’t fancy doing.
Nothing… huttt! Tchup!… NOTHING…
Perfect isn’t it? Time to think, to dream – to muse and to noodle. You can do it with a lover, a pal, in the sun – on a rug in front of the fire… in bed, cuddled on your sofa. You can languish anywhere. It’s more a state of mind than anything else. It requires you to priorise you.
So now that we’re languishing – I’ve got fizz and chocs too – what?! It’s Valentine’s Day Eve – and I have been whisked… after a day by the sea – out of season on the beautiful Cornish coast – I am languishing and my lovely love is catching up on the Rugby – we are happy in our separate spaces – together and contained. Blissful.
We have cancelled the fancy dinner, and snuck charcuterie, cheese and cake past the concierge – after we’ve finished languishing and watching the game – we’ll bundle up in our blanket on the balcony an scoff meat and crackers and drink fizz and giggle at the sheep doing night raids across the fields …
While languishing – I thought about writing love letters – and it occurred to me that we don’t write enough of them either to the people we love – or indeed ourselves.
You’ll find a little letter I wrote to myself – from future me on a different tab if you care to look. It isn’t quite a love note – but it does contain compassion and care for myself. I would like you to write a love letter to yourself this week – in honour of St Valentine – and particularly if you don’t have a lovely love with you at this time.
Indulge yourself in a fantasy love if you like – but if you can – write it to yourself from you. Tell yourself how beautiful you are, count the ways that you inspire love and friendship. Don’t hold back – why would you – this is a little missive from you to you – don’t be shy – don’t cut corners.
Give yourself a lift – tell yourself the things you need to read about how wonderful you are.
You are unique – amazing – star filled and awesome and you will blossom and grow in confidence as you offer yourself some genuine love.
Write your note on special paper – spray it with your favourite perfume. Put it in an envelope and send it to yourself through the post. On the day you receive it – make time to read it and appreciate how loved you are.
Even if you are a long way off this place of self love – give it a go.
Hell write yourself a small post card of ‘like’ if you must – but make a start. If you are to achieve all the amazing things that you are capable of. All the things that your heart is quietly prompting you to reach for – then you MUST learn to love yourself.
And today – Valentine’s Day 2015 is where you start.
If I could write you a love letter – I would. In fact… I jolly well might…
So light a candle, pour yourself a glass of wine or a cup of tea – kick off your shoes and languish – and while you are luxuriating in the space and time to be yourself – pick up your fountain pen and write some sweet words of admiration to yourself…
Go on… I dare you xxxx
Long live lovely love